Feeling is the healing

This topic has been on my mind for ages, and now I am writing this article to share some insight into it.

Often, when I do my shamanic healing sessions, either on myself or others, the biggest resistance is always when people can't or are not willing to feel the emotional pain that they have suffered. There is a coping mechanism towards it. Either when the traumatic event happens, those emotions are so overwhelming that we have to shut down to survive, or we slowly develop into a false belief that we should always be fine and feeling good; those "negative" emotions are not allowed, so suppression is another coping mechanism just to feel good or pretend everything is good.

So when I ask people how they feel, if the answer is I don't know or I feel fine, that's normally a strong indication of suppression of emotions. They've normalised this coping mechanism to just feel good and avoid the pain that is supposed to be felt. In shamanic practice, we are very much aiming at releasing or transmuting the energy that has in some way been holding our life back. If the resistance is not to feel negative emotions and then normally the session cannot go much deeper. Emotions are energy, there's no good or bad emotions. They are there for a reason to awaken us to something that we have long forgotten, to reveal the truth of what part of ourselves hasn't felt loved or seen.

Emotions are just energy

When you accept this concept, then it will be easier for you to accept the all spectrum of your emotions without judgment or preference. Emotions are there to remind you of your deepest need that hasn't been met, maybe from your younger self, past lives or even through generations of your ancestors. When you allow this energy to be felt and moved through you, then it won't be stuck in your physical body, and you won't be triggered into your old pattern over and over again. Often, because we have suppressed our emotions for so long, it has accumulated in our body, causing all sorts of diseases and mental illnesses. But if we allow ourselves to process them and take them as a chance to discover deeply within ourselves that which part of ourselves needs attention right now, then we give ourselves a chance to allow light in to heal from it.

You're gonna feel it to heal it

I've noticed a pattern that occurs in a lot of people in their search for healing. They looking for healers or therapists to fix them, give them a solution, to remove their pain for them. However, the harsh truth is, no one can take your pain away from you until you take responsibility for your own emotions and your healing. Yes, it can feel overwhelming and unbearable sometimes; Yes, it can feel chaotic and messy sometimes; Yes, it can also be hard to admit that the shadow part of yourself was so ugly to even look at; But, remember, behind every emotion there is a need, belief, thought form that need to be discovered and addressed, so you could clear that energetic space for good stuff. Sorry, no one can take the pain away from you, but yes, the pain you've suffered is the gateway to the light.

Feeling the emotions, but let go of the story

A healthy way of fully allowing yourself to feel is: First, learn how to quiet your thoughts and practice not reacting or adding any stories to the thought, as our thoughts simply create all those stories and emotions, which are the cause of our suffering. That's why meditation practice is very important in your healing. Often I said, if you don't have 5 minutes to meditate, you probably need an hour to calm down your mind. Then, once you have a certain level of control over your thoughts, you will be able to drop your awareness to your heart and create a safe container for those unloved parts of yourself to be felt. Dance, music, movement, etc, can help you physically release the energy without you being stuck in the story. At the end of the day, the past is past; if part of ourself still holding on to those outdated realities, it only traps us in the past. We are the creators of our own stories. Ask yourself, do you want to keep the old yucky one or create a bright new one? Last but not least, be consistent in taking care of your emotions. It's not a one-time fix no matter how many therapy or healing sessions you are going to do. A healer can help you remove some energy blocks one day, and you could call it back the next day if you don't want to change how you think and feel. Take ownership of it, then the healing will occur as miracles and you will know all those ride are worth it.

Don’t be the victim of your emotions, own it.

Often when we encounter negative experiences in our life, it’s easy to get into the victimhood of poor me. And we seek for external validation for that horrible experience. We thought things are happening to us, it must be some sort of external things out of our control, and you end up attracting same experiences to validate that feeling over and over again. I’ve been there and I know how it feels like.

But in shamanic perspective, those experiences in our life are comes from our innate energy frequency. What’s that means? for example, if you keeps attracting people is emotional unavailable to you, it probably you carried some sort of unworthiness energy within you that creeped in due to various events over lifetimes as your soul existence. So you keeps attracting that experience to validate that feeling, because that’s familiar therefore “safe.”

This is not means there is something wrong with you, it simply means you took on those energy and thought forms as your own, people can have really good childhood experiences but still felt deeply unworthy or not good enough, that can come from your cultural, societal and even ancestral beliefs that you carried over generations.

Healing will occur if you are able to take ownership of your emotions, have a deeper look at it and give it a closer look at your shadow and bring full acceptance and compassion to yourself. You are not a victim of your reality but a creator of it, it’s not a game of blaming but claiming your life with honesty and determination of change and growth. To realise healing is not a process to fix yourself, it’s a self-realisation of the light you already are, claim your power back and peeling off all those energy we carried for various reasons over lifetimes. So we could to realise that we are that essence of love.

Have a good one!

Fery Qiu